Real Romance for Real Busy Couples – 15-Minute Marriage Makeover

For week 2 of our one month 15 Minute Marriage Makeover challenge my husband and I focused on rekindling the romance in our lives.  Romance is one of the greatest joys of being in love, yet sadly, it is almost always the first thing to go when we get busy.  Sure, we are still in love, and say so daily.  Sure we still spend time together, and enjoy each other’s company.  But the sweet and silly romantic gestures and activities seem to get fewer and farther apart until they are just saved for special occasions; anniversaries, birthdays, and of course, Valentine’s Day.

If I close my eyes and recall when I fell in love with my husband, I promise you I still get butterflies in my stomach.  Yet, the truth is, with everyday that passes my husband means more to me than he did in the early days.  He is not only my love, the keeper of my heart, but now he is also my husband and the father of our son.  But how is it possible that over time how much I treasure this man and how often I show it have become inversely proportional?

At the start of all relationships we take such great pleasure in every little moment shared.  We go to such great efforts to make sure we make a big show of how much we care for the other one.  Complacency and time rob us of of both of these, and I for one revel in this weeks look at romance, and how to make sure we keep it alive in our relationship.

My Favorite Task this Week: Simple Romance – Pick Your Pleasure

For starters let’s all immerge ourselves back to the beginning.  The “good ole days”, when simple times together used to feel like stepping out onto a dreamy cloud of giddy happiness.

The task is simple; choose one of the following playful, romantic and possibly sexy activities to complete for your 15 minutes.  More likely than not they will transport you back in time, and will be things you and your partner have not done together in ages!

  • Go to the park and push each other on a swing
  • Look through old photo albums together
  • Make-out on the couch
  • Go for a walk and hold hands
  • Lay in the backyard and look at the stars
  • Listen to music you enjoyed while you were dating

There are plenty more suggestions included in Dustin’s Riechmann’s book the 15-Minute Marriage Makeover, but these are my favorite options.  My husband and I cheated slightly.  We listened to the album James Greatest hits, a favourite from our early months together, while looking at iPhoto albums on my computer of our favorite travel adventures.  We heard a James cover band at a beer festival in Winchester on our first weekend away together, and the tunes combined with chatting over the memories brought back from pictures of our Thailand and Switzerland excursions, created a wonderfully romantic moment.  Butterflies in abundance.

Stay tuned for Next Week: Intimacy!

Main photo by Porto Bay Hotels & Resorts.